Recreation Confidence Techniques

I've already asked a few people here but now I'm broadening my search. I'm helping a friend of mine to get this girl, and I've given him some confidence techniques that work. What I want to know is if you guys have any? If you could please though, write them like this:

Mirror Technique:
Need: Mirror, 5-10 minutes, personal time
What to do: Stand in front of a mirror and repeat a line that helps build your confidence for about 5 minutes or so like "Im John, and I am good looking"....and such.

Thanks.

-User formerly known as KenshinX_Himura

 

Only guys on this thread huh? Some girls that are insecure (we all are somewhere inside us...somewhere) use that technique too but ive found alot of times doing something like that to feel more confident in anything, once i go to speak, i tend to forget all of it, stuble in speech and ramble a little, then go quiet and try to leave.

Im not dising the technique but it might not work on all guys, im only saying this for your own saftey.

*violaters will be towed*

 

I find a strong drink makes you pretty bold.

-User still known as Nephilim_X

 

It depends on the person, really. Try to get into some spontaneous situations. The more you are put on the spot, the more you will get used to it, and the pressure of meeting new people, speaking in front of crowds, or talking to that special someone is lifted.

 

LOL.

I once was shy. Believe it or not. I realized that if you don't speak then you will not be heard. Who else will speak for you but you? Who cares if you mummble, make a mistake, get laughed at, and etc. It won't matter in a few years. If someone brings it up a few years, months, or even days later you can be like what you didn't get a life then?

Your male friend should try and talk to female friends he knows. Girls like guys who are able to talk to them as a friend. Once he is confrontable with that then he should be able to with the girl he likes.

Or try small conversations at first then later asking her out. Little by little is a thing to try. Help her carry her books, wave to her in the hall, ask her to join him for lunch with his friends, and etc.

 

Ahh, but watch you don't spend too much time with her or trying to talk to her. She'll think you're a stalker or something.

Trust me, I know a thing or two about shyness. I'm what you call telephobic. I have a fear of making telephone calls. It sounds pretty stupid, but so it is. I used to not be able to call anyone at all, ever. I'd just freeze up with the phone in my hand and then hang up a second later. I still do it sometimes. And sometimes I'll make a million excuses to *not* call someone, even if it's something important. To this day I'd rather meet someone in person than call them.

The trick is to just do it. I made up a billion excuses, but found that once I actually did it, it wasn't that hard. So don't think about what you're doing and just do it. You'd be surprised at how well it usually goes. You'll find that you really had no reason to be worried about anything.

And while that's enough to approach someone, getting a girl to like you is entirely a different topic. For some it comes easy, for some it's insanely difficult. In my opinion, the best thing to do is to get to know her, and become her friend first. I mean, would you rather go out with some random guy who just walked up to you and asked, or a friend of yours who you've known for awhile? I'll let it go here since it's not exactly my area of expertise, though.

Basically, ignore your shyness and just do it, and make friends with her before you try anything. That's what's worked for me, I don't see any reason why it wouldn't work for you.

 

Coming from someone who has little luck with women in general you can take this advice for what it's worth.

Scripting events ahead of time usually lands in failure because she's just as spontaneous as you are and will ask sometihng you are unprepared for. I'm surprised no one else has told you this yet-

Just be yourself man.

Be real, and genuine, smile a lot, and just be who you really are. There aren't really any 'proven' techniques that work 100% of the time for everyone. What works for some people doesn't work for others. That's why you just have to be yourself. Your own personality is the best ammunition you have. Even if you are quiet and introverted, many guys/girls dig that in a girl/dude. You wont find these ppl in bars or clubs, but well, Duh! You have to go where you're most comfortable to meet people of similar tastes and ideals.

Showing off usually backfires and makes you look like a moron rather than a stud.

Sounds like your friend is still in school, most people at that age are still learning about "boys" and "girls" and all the do's and don't's in talking to and picking up women. It's not until late in college that most begin to grasp just what it's all about.

Tell your guy just to be himself and go with what ever he's most comfortable with. Just be himself and be genuine and if she digs him she'll show interest back. If not, well, there are plenty of other fish, right? If nothing else he'll learn a little more about what to say/do around women.

Ah, liquid confidence. Probably wouldn't work too well in a High School enviroment. Asking her out to the dance with Booze on the breath wont exactly make you look like Mr. Cassinova. Still, might be funny to see how she reacts. XD

 

this is an idea you could always do a double date so your friend won't feel unconfrontable by himself when he goes out with this girl then after that he might be able to go out with her on his own. this is an idea on how to build a conversation and confidence when talking to her

 

What's the guys problem anyway? What's at the root of his lack of confidence?

 

Mr. Rejection, basically, for one. Secondly, he's not that great at talking to hot girls, or, for that matter, comely(pretty), ordinary girls. He's always been turned down, and he finally came to me for some help. I'm helping him now, and his confidence is improving somewhat, but he's still having a problem with approach.

 

Get him started out on some fat girls and he can work up from there.

 

heve him learn some fighting art.

 

Ever heard of something called "Trial by Fire"?

Hehe, your utter lack of discretion is as hilarious as ever.

~W

 

Yeah, a lot of stuff has been said here. Anyway, get him to talk to other girls and see how he does. If hr succeeds, then he is probably ready. If he blows it, he may need a wee bit more practice.